Lemn Sissay is a poet, author and broadcaster who was the official poet of the London Olympics in 2012. Giving him up for adoption, he thinks, was a massively selfless thing to do. It made me aware that families all look different and thats absolutely fine., Carl Parsons was adopted at five weeks. I was mostly well looked after, he says, and learned to be happy in my own company., Ive become somebody to whom family and community is incredibly important, says opera singer Jack Holton, who was born in Kent to a single mother with health issues and fostered at an early age. Social services placed the baby Lemn into long-term foster care, advising the foster family to treat this as adoption. He was British and Ethiopian. The answer was often because we are sinners. The social worker handed Lemn to foster parents and declared his name Norman. Its never really been something that had a lasting effect on me., CEO of Adoptee Futures and critical adoption studies researcher, I was fostered till the age of one and then placed with my adoptive family, says Annalisa Toccara. My experience was a horror story, but it wasnt so bad in other ways, says Barrie Sharpe. He expected a certain amount of difficulty from the exposure but its not made anything weird at all, he says. Yes, you did.. It was the end of December 1979 and I was excited when I entered the front room for the family meeting. It felt affectionate then, but later I realised something wasnt right. They were happy, he says. My parents were amazing, but their colour-blind approach wasnt representative of societys view of me., There are at least two kinds of narratives about being in care, says Sylvan Baker. Lemn Sissay MBE is a British author and broadcaster. In two months time they would send me away forever as if I were a stranger. This was the beginning of the end of open arms and warm hugs. Wherever I lived, my care experience included libraries and reading, and without them I wouldnt be here, says Rosie Canning, who was put into care in London at six weeks. Lemn Sissay was born in the village of Billinge, near Wigan, in 1967 to an Ethiopian mother. As with most brothers, Christopher and I fought like snakes on each others territory. I loved my family. We want you to spend the next day thinking about love and what it is. In that situation, a mother doesnt see her child, she is wrenched into the memory of the father. Author, broadcaster, chancellor of the University of Manchester. He rebelled against the system and later ended up in detention centres and prisons, dealing with drug addiction. Then it was time for a love poem, which he believes is read at a wedding at least every two weeks and is available for free online:Invisible Kisses. Audio CD. He has authored several collections of poetry, as well as plays for both stage and public radio, and was official poet of. His mother was asked to sign adoption papers, but refused; she wanted him back when she could manage better. Lemn Sissay is a BAFTA-nominated, award-winning writer and broadcaster. Sheen has made a documentary about her experience, a powerful study of cultural displacement and linguistic disenfranchisement called Abandoned Adopted Here. He has been made an Honorary Doctor by the universities of Manchester, Kent, Essex, Huddersfield and Brunel, and in 2019 . He made me realise that it could be a strength not a hindrance. Shes now a patron of the Bolton charity Backup North West which helped her get her first flat when she was 17. She looked at me as if I had wounded her. Every one of us has a different story, says Sissay, beaming around the room in a shirt that is playing catch-up with the sun. Both almost insisted Norman had to leave today. Social workers report, 2 January 1980: Attitudes seemed hardened and therefore I arranged to take Norman to Woodfields. Social workers report. I have no one to dispute or agree on the memory of me, good or bad. I always feel these two years [at the childrens home] made it possible for me to be who I am today.. It maybe shapes certain aspects of your character and your attitude to life, says Tom Riordan of the experience of being in care. My Name Is Why: Quick Reads 2022: Amazon.co.uk: Sissay, Lemn: 9781838854645: Books Skip to main content .co.uk Hello Select your address They wanted me to ask God for forgiveness and through him I will learn to love them. Jenny Bagchi spent time in foster care and unregulated settings as a teenager before experiencing an abrupt end to care at 16. Thank you to Jude Kelly, and John McGrath. I still think love is the most important thing. She wanted her child to be fostered while she studied. His Landmark poems are visible in London, Manchester, Huddersfield and Addis Ababa. Lemn Sissay is an award-winning writer, poet, playwright, artist and broadcaster. At the time, I looked exactly like my father and was the same age as he was when I was conceived. Through my lived experience of being adopted, I co-founded a mental-health organisation called Adoptee Futures, which is led by adoptees and which centres adoptees. Lemn Sissay OBE FRSL (born 21 May 1967) [1] is a British author and broadcaster. Ludford began as a cleaner at Manchester city council before working her way up, earlier this year, to lord mayor. His Landmark poems are visible in London, Manchester, Huddersfield and. He recalled how becoming 12 years old, he started to develop into an adolescent and told the odd lie and stayed out late occasionally. Ive forgiven my foster mother. Ive had experiences with homelessness, she says, and its something that disproportionately affects people who are leaving foster care. Sissay was the official poet of the 2012 London Olympics, has been chancellor of the University of Manchester since 2015, and joined the Foundling Museum's board of trustees two years later, having previously been appointed one of the museum's fellows. Cato was born on the Caribbean island of Grenada and adopted as a baby by white parents in Brighton, along with his brother. I know so many care-experienced people whove had that further experience of being homeless, being a rough sleeper, living in hostels, sofa-surfing, all that kind of stuff.. We need to prioritise the voices of people with lived experience of care, she says. I loved school. This is Lemn's story: a story of neglect and determination, misfortune and hope, cruelty and triumph. He had a brother and sister, Christopher and Sarah, and then Mrs Greenwood had another child, Helen. It was about having support and confidence, and knowing what is possible, she says, I didnt even know what an artist was.. The foster parents have spoken of adoption, but they are afraid that investigations may lead to his mother. Social workers report. That was strange for a while. My brother Christopher is a year younger than me and I really loved him when I was a kid. A lot of care-experienced people will also measure success by how were feeling internally, how we manage our mental health and wellbeing, and not always what were achieving externally. Moved into a childrens home aged six, Saha then went to live with adoptive parents in Merseyside the following year a complex but positive experience for which he feels lots of gratitude. Lemn Sissay was seventeen when he wrote his first poetry book, which he hand-sold to the miners and mill workers of Wigan. I am mightily proud of being care-experienced as its made me who I am today. These experiences have shaped who I am today, an independent woman, passionate about my career and working with local authorities in Greater Manchester to ensure every young person has a voice, choice and control over decisions made about them., Psychodynamic psychotherapist and director of Integrated Minds and Artists on the Couch. I used to let Christopher win at things, because he would get really upset when he didnt win, so I would play the wall and then let the ball go, and say to the wall: 15 love, to you. There was always a decision as I got to the end of the game with the wall, about whether Id let him win or not. It upset my brother when he realised what he hadnt taken on board., Photography/film rep, exec producer and consultant, In the 1990s Loo How, who was adopted at six weeks by a very Christian white family in Bristol, went on a journey to track down her biological parents. And then Lemn spoke elegantly and measuredly as he delivered a cathartic unburdening of his formative years. Ben Ashcroft, the author of a memoir titled Fifty-One Moves, was nearly one of them. She is also a trustee of the charity Pure Insight, which supports young people to have a better care-leaving experience than she did herself. Photograph: Hamish Brown/Contour The poet and broadcaster, 55, on the power of forgiveness,. These moments stuck in my memory. I felt incredibly cared for and looked after., When Paolo Hewitt was researching his care memoir, The Looked After Kid, in his early 40s, he went back to Burbank childrens home in Woking, where he lived from 10 to 18, and realised that it was actually a great experience, especially compared with the dismal years in foster care that preceded it. During that time he also became a drug addict and notched up 33 criminal convictions, he says. In his memoir My Name is Why, the award-winning writer and poet tells the story of his fight for justice and finding hope and creativity while caught in an uncaring and dangerous bureaucracy. Author and national adviser for care leavers. She said: Take them off and give them to him. I didnt understand. . Axa Hynes, right, with her foster sister Michelle Brown, also featured in the Foundling Museum photograph. Lemn Sissay was stolen by the state. This is Lemn's story: a story of neglect and determination, misfortune and hope, cruelty and triumph. Lemn Sissay's traumatic childhood has informed much of the work he has created. This photograph alone proves that with the right support and opportunities, those stereotypes are false.. I was 10 and we were off to a wedding in our new clothes. I am not defined by my scars but by the incredible ability to heal. Someone gave me a fish-finger sandwich and I was like, Ive made it. Leaving care was harder: The social housing that I got put into was not the best there were needles all over the floor and blood on the wall and the support wasnt always the greatest. Support for care leavers has since improved, Mahmood says, thanks to new policies from her local authority in Kirklees. And this is what I found. But the responsibility is too great for a child and so he finds himself manipulated and blamed for what he exposes by the simple virtue of innocence. She is now employed by the NHS in Greater Manchester, leading a programme to create trauma responsive communities and organisations and to improve health outcomes and opportunities across the region. Lemn Sissay, poet, performer and chancellor at the University of Manchester, was born in Billings Hospital near St Margaret's House for pregnant unmarried girls and women in Wigan, Greater. Yemarshet Sissay came to England from her homeland, in 1966, planning to become a teacher so she could bring her new found skills back with her to Ethiopia to teach in schools there. A lot of transracial adoptees talk about how racist their white families are, but actually, its racism that affects them too, and the way they see the world, says Rowe. I carried a lot of anger for many years and then I realised that the anger is one of the things that kills people. The theology was perfect, the timing unquestionable and the answer as honest as a sinner could get. Went on to talk about another placement for Norman without any consideration of how the boy might feel. I hadnt realised then but none of them would contact me ever again for the rest of my life. Akabusi joined the British army aged 16 and later embarked on a glittering athletics career as a sprinter and hurdler. When he was six, his adoptive mother died and he was sent to live with relatives for 15 months, until his father remarried and he moved back home. Several people point out that they are the lucky ones anyone who has been in a care home will know many who fell by the wayside. Instead of celebrating success despite the odds, we urgently need to improve the odds.. The documents armed Sissay with the necessary proof that "the government had stolen my childhood.". He spent his childhood moving between different carers after his mother was killed by his father in 1966. I felt important. I have a very happy childhood memory of being in Scotland on holiday when I was about four. Lemn Sissay on ITV News (Credit: ITV) He gained significant international recognition in 2012 when he was appointed the official poet at the 2012 London Olympics. Sarah looked pretty as a picture in her blue floral dress. Other weird things started to happen. The result is an inspiring photograph for young people in care today, Introduction by Claire Armitstead. Lemn Sissay, My Name Is Why. As much as you read this book and are in shock (or not) at how this young black child was dragged through a problematic system and feel angry at the injustices he has faced, you can't . Sissay realised he'd been stolen. The poemEmperors Butterfly Makerpaid tribute to the artists and entertainers who fill our leisure time he reminded the audience that once we have made our money we turn to music or poetry or art or literature, all of which have been imagined by someone. Lemn Sissay is a BAFTA-nominated, award-winning international writer and broadcaster. We usually get the narrative told about us so its nice to tell it ourselves, she says. Mum smelled like mums smell; there must be a smell a child is attuned to from being a baby, a cross between baby powder and witch hazel. I spent my life searching for my birth family. And thats all right, but thats the deal. After a 31-year campaign he received them in 2015. The last entry is his letter requesting to see them, at 18. If you just want to be? Baker was transracially fostered from 11 days old. Buy My Name Is Why: Quick Reads 2022 Main - Quick Reads by Sissay, Lemn (ISBN: 9781838854645) from Amazon's Book Store. He was the eldest of three adopted siblings, all from different families. Mr Sissay detailed his experiences in the British care system in his autobiography of his early life - My Name Is Why. Wallwein, who received an MBE in 2018 for services to spoken word poetry, had been in 13 homes before writing her first play at 17. Im 12. He advocates for children in the local authority's care and is involved in organisations concerning their welfare. Poet Lemn Sissay says he felt obliged to accept his OBE because the award honours his younger self who overcame a "dehumanising" time in care. I was always falling uphill, he says. And it is my fault. Buy My Name Is Why By Lemn Sissay. On the back another poem is handwritten, composed on the train into London this morning, fresh on the page. $21.87 10 New from $16.75. Both have experienced it, from very different perspectives, and met in person for the first time on this week's episode of Yahoo podcast White Wine Question Time. He asked me to yelp so it sounded like I was being punished. Sissay reflects on his childhood, self-expression and Britishness, and in doing so explores the institutional care system, race, family and the meaning of home. Come what may, I may be knocked down, but I wont be down for long., Artist and founder member of the darkroom e5process, Tina Rowe first encountered racism when, aged six, she moved with her white adoptive family from a small Oxfordshire village to Malvern in Worcestershire. His biological mother had traveled to from Ethiopia to England in the late 1960s and because she was pregnant and single was pushed to put her baby up for adoption. Norman Mills, my new social worker, waited at the gate. Its really horrible.. He tapped the indicator and pulled quietly into a lay-by and turned the engine off. I brought all these questions home. She showed him a letter that she had written in 1968, 4 months after he had been born, in which she pleaded, to no avail, that he be given back to her to live with his own people. I forgave her to her face. The way I see it, this should be something for people who are going through the system. Its difficult to build a relationship with a mother. Birthdays, Christmas, weekends, holidays I have to be the best family that I can be, to myself. Adopted as a baby, Jeanette Winterson grew up in a strict Pentecostalist family in Lancashire. Lemn Sissay MBE (born 21 May 1967) is an English author and broadcaster. It's a bolt from the blue. To mark National Poetry Day this month, poet and author Lemn Sissay muses on a country childhood of mixed blessings - and why this year he is more hopeful than ever. None of this is your fault. His is an extraordinary story of family, and identity, lost and . My grandad had a cottage in Lochinver we would visit in the summer holidays and at Easter. Poet, playwright, novelist, memoirist, radio broadcaster, documentary maker, public speaker, Chancellor of the University of Manchester. My sisters lived in London with my blood parents in a black world. Now she is a lived experience consultant and the co-founder of calling4gr8ness.org, supporting care-experienced young adults in the creative industries. But I will ask God for forgiveness and learn to love you. This was the perfect answer. Lucy Sheen, whose Chinese name is Chau Lai-Tuen, aged one in the home of her adoptive parents. Riordan was in respite care several times during his first four years. Thered be many times in the future that I would play table tennis with myself by pushing the table against the wall. Today we stand proud as care leavers and remove societys stigma. Brown defied expectations by progressing to university and getting a Masters. The care-experienced movement is shaping some of the thinking that people in care are talented and have so much potential. But success is not about being the lord mayor, she told a group of care leavers recently. Thats all I knew. When I was in the childrens homes, for years, I would play table tennis against a wall and imagine I was playing with him. Music producer/writer; founder of clothing labels Duffer of St George and Sharpeye; author; one of the two creators of the rare groove scene; photographer; activist. He has been made an Honorary Doctor by the universities of Manchester, Kent, Huddersfield and Brunel. Now Im starting to realise that it did really have an impact on me, she says. He was an introvert. He has been with this family since he was a couple of months old and Mrs Greenwood considers him as theirs. He reflected how he had since forgiven his foster parents, saying they did the best they could and he had also received apologies from Wigan Council. See more information Ripped away from his Ethiopian mother in infancy, he endured over a decade of mistreatment and wilful cruelty in the British care system. I asked when my clothes and toys would be arriving. I am, as I have ever been, interested to hear anything Catherine has to say about the eleven year old boy who she and her husband placed into care. And his little dog, Sausages, learn to use only what they need as they help the. When he was four, Kriss Akabusis parents returned to Nigeria, leaving him alone in the UK with his younger brother. He spoke of finding wreckage from the crash in the documentary Internal Flight which can be viewed on YouTube. This was quickly followed bySuitcases and Muddy Parkswhich spoke of proving yourself to your parents and he fleetingly remembered how his own mum and dad went off one way, whilst he went off with a social worker. What kept us stable is that we knew we had two mums and dads.. Over the past few years I sensed I had done something wrong and yet didnt know what it was. Her care experience in West Yorkshire was reasonably positive, partly because I was just happy to have a home. Theyre part of a poem-a-day project by their author Paul Cookson, who was born in the north of England and adopted shortly afterwards by a family in Essex. The sculpture commemorates the abolition of the transatlantic slave trade in 1807, which began the process of the emancipation of slaves throughout the British Empire. It's Mrs Catherine Greenwood, my foster mother of the first eleven years. Thank you. He shared the abuse he suffered during his formative years in the one-off show . I loved the sibling rivalry. I started thinking all over again. She had a deeply unsettled childhood, moving between foster families and childrens homes from the age of six months, after her parents were badly injured in a motorcycle accident. Johanan Walker, aged 13, with her one-year-old daughter, during their time in care in Hackney. Today, we are as close as she can allow herself to be. Ive put a great amount of my own time back into trying to improve things for other people., It destroys you as a person, the amount of anxiety you develop from always expecting something to go wrong in your life, says Tarell Mcintosh, who became homeless after two local authorities in south London failed to properly care for him. 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